It’s Okay to Not Know What Your Story is Yet

Someone once told me that I would never amount to anything because I didn’t know what my “calling” was when I was in my mid 20’s. But I’m here to tell you that it’s okay to not know what your story is yet.

At the time those words cut so deep. Honestly, they shouldn’t have because those words didn’t come from someone who added value to my life. This person only wanted to tear me down. I was a newly single mom of 3 young children and had been a stay-at-home mom for the last 3 or 4 years of the marriage I was in at the time.

I didn’t know what I was going to do when I left the toxic marriage I was in. Thankfully, my parents knew that me being home to raise my children was most important. While I was caring for my children, I was also keeping an eye on my elderly grandmother (Grammy). Between my kids and my grandmother, they sure kept me on my toes.

Here I am almost a decade later… doing what I want to do. Blogging. Creating Content (YouTube) and sharing my life with others. I know I’m not an “influencer” but I can still share my story and knowledge in hopes of helping someone else.

Blogging and creating content allows me to be home with my children and has the potential to earn an income. Granted, I don’t currently make but a few cents here and there with my blogs. But in time, I know I will be able to bring home some bacon to help my husband support our family.

Some days when trying to write content or record a video is just a little too overwhelming, I throw in the towel.

Stop throwing in the towel!

Remember it is okay to take a break but it is not okay to give up. You have to keep working towards your end goal. For me, that end goal is to be able to use the money I earn from blogging to get our family out of debt.

I know that there are so many people who feel like they’re not worth anything because they don’t know what they were meant to do. That’s okay. You can feel bad but only for a little while. Feeling bad won’t do you any good. You have to march to the beat of your own drum. Let others have their opinions and just keep proving them wrong. You can do it.

You don’t need anyone’s approval. You just need to love what you do. Whatever you’re passionate about, just do it!

 

 

 


Is Daily Vlogging My Calling?

In May of this year, I set out to start daily vlogging (you can read about that here), when it didn’t happen I then asked myself “Is Daily Vlogging My Calling?”… unfortunately, daily vlogging isn’t my calling at this time. My life is rather boring now that all 5 of the kids are in school. So what is my calling? Well, I’m not really sure. But what I can tell you is that it is okay to not really know what your calling is just yet.

Some people are born knowing what they want to do, others figure it out while they’re in middle school/high school, while others it takes a lot longer to really figure out what they love to do.

Are you a daily vlogger? If not, I will tell you that it takes a lot of time to record video, create B-Roll, and then edit it all together while still managing to tell a good story. I’m good at none of that. I’m still learning. I wish it came so easily to me. I honestly see so many ideas running around in my head that would make great videos, but my non-creative mind cannot make it come out the way I see it in my head.

Because I struggle with what my calling is and I really do wonder is daily vlogging my calling. That sometimes I get in this mindset that I need to do it. I need to just pick up the camera and vlog. But then when I pick the camera up I don’t know what to say or do.

So instead I sit here stagnant wondering when I will figure out what my calling is. I wonder if being a mom and wife is the only thing I’ll ever be good at. Some days I’ll even question if I’m good at that.

If you’re wondering what your calling is, don’t worry you aren’t alone. You have at least one other person (me) who still doesn’t know what she wants to do with her life.

Maybe 2019 will be my year where I decide if Daily Vlogging is my calling. Until then, keep pushing forward, keep trying new things and don’t let the negative opinions of anyone else get you down.


Letting Fear Rule My Life

For the longest time, I have been letting fear rule my life. It has ruled every single aspect it could of my life. From personal to professional. From marriage to parenting. When I say every single aspect, I mean EVERY. SINGLE. ASPECT. of my life. Fear has prevented me from being who I really want to be.

Today, I’m letting fear go. I need it to stop ruling my life because it is ruining my life. There is no more hiding, it is my time to shine. Today is the day I start living. Tomorrow is the day I start sharing my real life with the world. Tomorrow is Vlog day 1 (well technically today is day 1).

I don’t even know why I have let fear rule my life for so many years. I’ve never been one to let other’s opinions of me take that much of a hold on me to where I cannot push forward to pursue what I love in my life.

To be honest, I know that tomorrow I’m going to be fearful when I upload my first daily vlog because I know that there will be someone that will have something negative to say about how I do things with my family and my children. But I won’t let that fear stop me from uploading a video. I’m going to let that fear push me to do greater things with my talents, share my life with my friends, family, and the world.

Please bear with me as things on not only my blog but my vlog (YouTube Channel) change over the course of the next few days, weeks or even months as I get more confident in my ability to be in front of the camera, as my editing and vlogging skills grow. Be sure to subscribe to our channel to see all our new videos.

Things will change and I will grow. I just hope that others join me on this journey and see the value in our family that I see.

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Daily Vlogging

Last summer we tried our hand at daily vlogging. Needless to say, it didn’t last very long and I felt like it was all that we did. We didn’t do anything fun last summer because of Zachary’s broken elbow. This year we already have our pool membership and river access key/pass. So we’re going to be living it up this summer at the community pool or the river.

Because last summer was such a bust due to having a kid in a cast for 4 weeks, we’ve decided that we’re going to try daily vlogging again this summer. Starting July 1st, which really means I’ll be recording at the end of June so we upload on July 1st.

We have so much to share in our daily lives. Like how we raise our 5 children, how the adopting/fostering thing is going, what we do all summer, how we budget, teaching our kids life skills while making things fun, etc.

We will also be addressing Zachary’s behavioral issues as he was just diagnosed with ADHD and we’ll soon be testing the waters of medications available for him. We will still be pushing to have him tested to see if he is on the Autism Spectrum.

We’re looking forward to taking you all along for the ride that is our lives. We’ve got a crazy bunch of kiddos and we’re blessed beyond measure. But remember we’re only showing you the majority of the good moments in our lives. Things do go wrong and we’ll capture some of the bad moments in our lives, but we don’t want to dwell on the negative things unless there is a teachable moment.

Our main purpose for daily vlogging is to share our lives with family members who do not live nearby. Since we live in a different state than both mine and Kevin’s family we don’t see them as often. We will be using our YouTube channel to share our daily lives with those close to us. Obviously, we are opening up our lives to criticism and the potential for negative comments. We (Kevin and myself) will not tolerate negative comments towards our children or our family, we do have the settings for our comments set to where we have to manually approve them. So if there is a negative comment our children will never see them.

We look forward to sharing our Daily Dose of Delancey with you in just a few short weeks!


Doing Too Many Things At Once

Occasionally, I wonder why I’m constantly doing too many things at once. I just can’t seem to juggle it all at the same time and I wonder how many others feel this way. If you feel this way, please leave a comment below. I’d love to know I’m not alone in this!

You see my heart has so many loves; spending time with my children and husband, photography, blogging, learning new videography skills, cooking, baking, etc. It just seems like there is never enough time in a day to do all of these things.

But the real question is why am I doing too many things at once? Well, to be honest with my readers. It’s because I want to figure out a way to not only express myself but also help my husband support our family by any means possible, while still being able to hold down the fort while he travels for work. Childcare is extremely expensive and since I have spent 99% of my adult life raising children I “failed” to get a higher education. I will eventually go back to school and work when my children are all in school. But right now, my children need me here at home.

When I started this blog three years ago I had different plans. Because I constantly feel the need to help get our family out of our massive amount of debt so we can enjoy our lives with our children, that I keep forgetting to put my focus on my blogs/websites/YouTube channels. Now, after 3 years, I have decided to go in a different direction with certain things… Mostly life.

One day by stretching myself thin and doing too many things at once will pay off. In the meantime, I’ll just keep pushing forward and looking for the best in all situations of life.

My biggest goal for my blog here at Delancey Dream Home is to start earning at least a steady small income each month so I can start to dig out of our massive mountain of debt.

Keep your eyes open for new posts about “How to Earn a Living from Blogging”!

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StylPro Knockoff Spinning Makeup Brush Cleaner Review

So awhile back I purchase this StylPro Knockoff Spinning Makeup Brush Cleaner on Amazon. Mostly because I was curious to know if it really worked. It was $24.99. Just a fraction of the Original StylPro Brush Cleaner which sells for approximately $69.99! Who really has $69.99 to spend on a makeup brush cleaner? I sure don’t.

*Normally, I don’t post stuff like this on this blog, but I thought it would be a great place to talk about cleaning makeup brushes because my 11-year-old got makeup for Christmas.

Then I decided that I wanted to do a video review on my BeautySchoolBlogger Channel. So that’s what I did, last night! I pulled out some dirty makeup brushes and played with this spinning makeup brush cleaner! You can use either liquid soap (Baby Wash, Dawn Dish Soap, Castile Soap, etc) or brush cleaner without diluting it. I chose to use soap and water.

StylPro Knockoff Spinning Makeup Brush Cleaner Review

Thanks for checking out my new video! I know it’s not exactly home related, but with 4 females in the house, we’re going to need a lot of makeup brushes and a few of these StylPro Knockoff Spinning Makeup Brush Cleaners.

 


Fostering to Adopt a Teenager

For those that don’t know; our preference has always been fostering to adopt a teenager. Why? Because our family dynamic doesn’t really allow for us to have a younger child. We feel that a child that is a little more independent will fit our family dynamic better.

Not only do we feel that fostering to adopt a teenager is the best for our family dynamic, we know that children in their teen years are more than likely not going to be adopted. So here at the Delancey’s we have plenty of time, space and love to share with a child who wants a family to call their own.

There are so many children in the U.S. Foster Care system, there are just 4,011 listed on the National Adoption list at AdoptUsKids.org. Unfortunately, there are many more children in Foster Care that are not yet available for adoption. Meaning their parent(s) is doing whatever they can to re-gain custody of their child(ren). The CPS and Foster Care System’s main goal is reunification of family, if the parent(s) fail to do their portion then the parents rights can be terminated. Some states don’t terminate parental rights to a child until a suitable adoptive family is found.

With that being said, our families goal is to provide a teenaged child with a place to call home. A family that will love them unconditionally and allow them to flourish/grow into the young adult they wish to be.

We have no problem giving a home to a child in need, but we feel that there are so many children in their teenaged years that need a place to call home and a family that we’re stepping up to fill that need.

 


Completed Home Study

Today, I wanted to tell our readers that we have an approved and completed home study. A few weeks ago we received a phone call from our chosen agency asking if we would take an emergency placement, we agreed. We just had to complete mine and Kevin’s medical forms.

In December I will be uploading a video on one of my channels that will discuss our first foster experience. I will also be discussing what our next step in our foster/adoption journey will be.

Please understand that we cannot divulge certain things, nor can we show photos of the child, so we will only be discussing our feelings and our overall experience with fostering a child. Keep your eyes peeled for a video on my Channel around December 4th.

I would l0ve to tell you more but that would just ruin the opportunity for me to make a video. I am trying to get back into the YouTube swing of things now that life has somewhat calmed down. With only one kiddo home during the day I can get more done and dedicate some time to batch recording some videos to upload in coming months.

Today is a little out of the ordinary, Zachary is at home sick. Poor guy had a fever yesterday and still has one today, so we’re hoping that he feels better tonight or tomorrow so he can go back to school on Wednesday. We just have to see what the next 24 hours holds for my sweet little guy. Since Zachary is not feeling well, I’m unable to get an real YouTube related work done.

Now that I’ve covered everything and more that needed to be covered in this post. Don’t forget to subscribe to my YouTube Channel.

Check back soon for updates!

 


What I Wish Everyone Knew About Bowflex Treadclimber

Before Summer started I was trying to get back into the habit of using my hand-me-down treadmill from a neighbor several years ago. Well it finally gave out on me so I tried to make it a daily habit to take the kids on a walk starting the first day of Summer, but needless to say that didn’t last very long. By the time we got out of bed every morning it was already so hot and humid that our morning walk sucked the life out of me. So I finally talked to Kevin about getting a Bowflex Treadclimber. I was hesitant to spend the money on something that may just collect dust in a corner of our basement.

Well I finally took the plunge and purchased the Bowflex Treadclimber TC100 on August 25. It was delivered on August 29. Kevin put it together on August 31st. The first time I used it was Today, September 3rd. I’m going to give you the low down on the TC100.

This morning, I woke up earlier than I normally would on a Sunday, I thought about getting on the treadclimber while all the kids and Kevin were still asleep, but honestly… I just rolled back over and fell asleep again. After eating my breakfast of a left over slice of chocolate cake with vanilla icing from Kevin’s brirthday yesterday, I decided to hop on the Treadclimber. I only made it FIVE minutes before I felt like I was dying. In my head, I was asking myself how these people make it look so effortless on the commercials. Not only that but oh man was I swearing up a storm in my head. The Bowflex Treadclimber is NOT an easy workout. Especially, for those of us who are in no shape at all.

So after I recovered from my measley five minute workout on the TC100 I decided to give it another go. I made it SIX minutes the second time around (11 minutes total)! Overtime, I plan on being able to do thirty minutes a day (two 15 minute workouts).

Keep following my blog for updates on the Bowflex Treadclimber TC100 and my weight loss efforts.

 


The Life We Live

Never in a million years did I ever think I would tell random strangers about our personal life. But here I am telling the whole world about the life we live. I can’t really pinpoint a reason as to why I love to blog, but I do. I hope that eventually my blog will inspire others or teach others something of value to them. Not everyone is going to get the same thing out of my experience in life. So welcome to the life we live and I hope you find some tidbit of value in here somewhere.

I have spent the last month or more playing catch up in life. The whole month of May seemed to bring us bad luck. Five negative things happened pretty much back-to-back. I think there was a sixth, but I can’t remember what it was at the moment so it must not have been that bad.

  1. Kittens broke my laptop
  2. Hot Water heater started leaking
  3. Kevin injured his back at work
  4. Kevin’s truck died while in his mom’s possession
  5. Zachary (our 5-year-old) broke his elbow while we were at First Aid/CPR Classes

Thankfully, the laptop had a protection plan with the GeekSquad. So it took 2 weeks to get my laptop back. It’s still not 100% perfect like it was before it was broken. But it works, for now.

I replaced the hot water heater with minimal help from Kevin. He couldn’t lift anything because the same day he picked up the hot water heater from Lowe’s is when he hurt his back at work. So I ended up having to wait until that Friday to replace the hot water heater. Our old one was leaking, so we turned off the electricity running to it, drained it the best we could and then I rocked it to where I could put it on some cardboard from the new hot water heater and slid that sucker out the back door. I’m so glad we purchased waterproof flooring because the hot water heater was still half full of water, it wasn’t draining properly because of sediment from our well water.

Kevin ended up on some pretty heavy duty meds for about a week. So he was home with me and the kids resting up. In that time frame, his mom called him to tell him that his truck died on her. Come to find out, his truck threw a rod for the 2nd time since he purchased this truck in 2010. He loves this little Ford Ranger, but man does this engine in it suck. It had less than 70k miles on it, when it threw a rod for the second time. If only he would have gotten an extended warranty on that dang truck. Oh well, you live and you learn.

Now, Zachary’s broken elbow is a giant fiasco in and of itself. All I know is that it happened at the playground while his big brother was swinging on the swing set. He ended up needing surgery. We’re 4 weeks post-surgery and finally have his pins out.

So all-in-all, we’re finally started to get back on track with the life we live. It’s been a crazy ride and I hope that the rest of 2017 goes a little more smoothly than the month of May did for our family.

We need to get back on track with our debt journey. A few things set us back a little, but we’ll get back on track soon.