Category Archives: Daily Life

Letting Fear Rule My Life

For the longest time, I have been letting fear rule my life. It has ruled every single aspect it could of my life. From personal to professional. From marriage to parenting. When I say every single aspect, I mean EVERY. SINGLE. ASPECT. of my life. Fear has prevented me from being who I really want to be.

Today, I’m letting fear go. I need it to stop ruling my life because it is ruining my life. There is no more hiding, it is my time to shine. Today is the day I start living. Tomorrow is the day I start sharing my real life with the world. Tomorrow is Vlog day 1 (well technically today is day 1).

I don’t even know why I have let fear rule my life for so many years. I’ve never been one to let other’s opinions of me take that much of a hold on me to where I cannot push forward to pursue what I love in my life.

To be honest, I know that tomorrow I’m going to be fearful when I upload my first daily vlog because I know that there will be someone that will have something negative to say about how I do things with my family and my children. But I won’t let that fear stop me from uploading a video. I’m going to let that fear push me to do greater things with my talents, share my life with my friends, family, and the world.

Please bear with me as things on not only my blog but my vlog (YouTube Channel) change over the course of the next few days, weeks or even months as I get more confident in my ability to be in front of the camera, as my editing and vlogging skills grow. Be sure to subscribe to our channel to see all our new videos.

Things will change and I will grow. I just hope that others join me on this journey and see the value in our family that I see.

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Daily Vlogging

Last summer we tried our hand at daily vlogging. Needless to say, it didn’t last very long and I felt like it was all that we did. We didn’t do anything fun last summer because of Zachary’s broken elbow. This year we already have our pool membership and river access key/pass. So we’re going to be living it up this summer at the community pool or the river.

Because last summer was such a bust due to having a kid in a cast for 4 weeks, we’ve decided that we’re going to try daily vlogging again this summer. Starting July 1st, which really means I’ll be recording at the end of June so we upload on July 1st.

We have so much to share in our daily lives. Like how we raise our 5 children, how the adopting/fostering thing is going, what we do all summer, how we budget, teaching our kids life skills while making things fun, etc.

We will also be addressing Zachary’s behavioral issues as he was just diagnosed with ADHD and we’ll soon be testing the waters of medications available for him. We will still be pushing to have him tested to see if he is on the Autism Spectrum.

We’re looking forward to taking you all along for the ride that is our lives. We’ve got a crazy bunch of kiddos and we’re blessed beyond measure. But remember we’re only showing you the majority of the good moments in our lives. Things do go wrong and we’ll capture some of the bad moments in our lives, but we don’t want to dwell on the negative things unless there is a teachable moment.

Our main purpose for daily vlogging is to share our lives with family members who do not live nearby. Since we live in a different state than both mine and Kevin’s family we don’t see them as often. We will be using our YouTube channel to share our daily lives with those close to us. Obviously, we are opening up our lives to criticism and the potential for negative comments. We (Kevin and myself) will not tolerate negative comments towards our children or our family, we do have the settings for our comments set to where we have to manually approve them. So if there is a negative comment our children will never see them.

We look forward to sharing our Daily Dose of Delancey with you in just a few short weeks!


Doing Too Many Things At Once

Occasionally, I wonder why I’m constantly doing too many things at once. I just can’t seem to juggle it all at the same time and I wonder how many others feel this way. If you feel this way, please leave a comment below. I’d love to know I’m not alone in this!

You see my heart has so many loves; spending time with my children and husband, photography, blogging, learning new videography skills, cooking, baking, etc. It just seems like there is never enough time in a day to do all of these things.

But the real question is why am I doing too many things at once? Well, to be honest with my readers. It’s because I want to figure out a way to not only express myself but also help my husband support our family by any means possible, while still being able to hold down the fort while he travels for work. Childcare is extremely expensive and since I have spent 99% of my adult life raising children I “failed” to get a higher education. I will eventually go back to school and work when my children are all in school. But right now, my children need me here at home.

When I started this blog three years ago I had different plans. Because I constantly feel the need to help get our family out of our massive amount of debt so we can enjoy our lives with our children, that I keep forgetting to put my focus on my blogs/websites/YouTube channels. Now, after 3 years, I have decided to go in a different direction with certain things… Mostly life.

One day by stretching myself thin and doing too many things at once will pay off. In the meantime, I’ll just keep pushing forward and looking for the best in all situations of life.

My biggest goal for my blog here at Delancey Dream Home is to start earning at least a steady small income each month so I can start to dig out of our massive mountain of debt.

Keep your eyes open for new posts about “How to Earn a Living from Blogging”!

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StylPro Knockoff Spinning Makeup Brush Cleaner Review

So awhile back I purchase this StylPro Knockoff Spinning Makeup Brush Cleaner on Amazon. Mostly because I was curious to know if it really worked. It was $24.99. Just a fraction of the Original StylPro Brush Cleaner which sells for approximately $69.99! Who really has $69.99 to spend on a makeup brush cleaner? I sure don’t.

*Normally, I don’t post stuff like this on this blog, but I thought it would be a great place to talk about cleaning makeup brushes because my 11-year-old got makeup for Christmas.

Then I decided that I wanted to do a video review on my BeautySchoolBlogger Channel. So that’s what I did, last night! I pulled out some dirty makeup brushes and played with this spinning makeup brush cleaner! You can use either liquid soap (Baby Wash, Dawn Dish Soap, Castile Soap, etc) or brush cleaner without diluting it. I chose to use soap and water.

StylPro Knockoff Spinning Makeup Brush Cleaner Review

Thanks for checking out my new video! I know it’s not exactly home related, but with 4 females in the house, we’re going to need a lot of makeup brushes and a few of these StylPro Knockoff Spinning Makeup Brush Cleaners.

 


Fostering to Adopt a Teenager

For those that don’t know; our preference has always been fostering to adopt a teenager. Why? Because our family dynamic doesn’t really allow for us to have a younger child. We feel that a child that is a little more independent will fit our family dynamic better.

Not only do we feel that fostering to adopt a teenager is the best for our family dynamic, we know that children in their teen years are more than likely not going to be adopted. So here at the Delancey’s we have plenty of time, space and love to share with a child who wants a family to call their own.

There are so many children in the U.S. Foster Care system, there are just 4,011 listed on the National Adoption list at AdoptUsKids.org. Unfortunately, there are many more children in Foster Care that are not yet available for adoption. Meaning their parent(s) is doing whatever they can to re-gain custody of their child(ren). The CPS and Foster Care System’s main goal is reunification of family, if the parent(s) fail to do their portion then the parents rights can be terminated. Some states don’t terminate parental rights to a child until a suitable adoptive family is found.

With that being said, our families goal is to provide a teenaged child with a place to call home. A family that will love them unconditionally and allow them to flourish/grow into the young adult they wish to be.

We have no problem giving a home to a child in need, but we feel that there are so many children in their teenaged years that need a place to call home and a family that we’re stepping up to fill that need.

 


Completed Home Study

Today, I wanted to tell our readers that we have an approved and completed home study. A few weeks ago we received a phone call from our chosen agency asking if we would take an emergency placement, we agreed. We just had to complete mine and Kevin’s medical forms.

In December I will be uploading a video on one of my channels that will discuss our first foster experience. I will also be discussing what our next step in our foster/adoption journey will be.

Please understand that we cannot divulge certain things, nor can we show photos of the child, so we will only be discussing our feelings and our overall experience with fostering a child. Keep your eyes peeled for a video on my Channel around December 4th.

I would l0ve to tell you more but that would just ruin the opportunity for me to make a video. I am trying to get back into the YouTube swing of things now that life has somewhat calmed down. With only one kiddo home during the day I can get more done and dedicate some time to batch recording some videos to upload in coming months.

Today is a little out of the ordinary, Zachary is at home sick. Poor guy had a fever yesterday and still has one today, so we’re hoping that he feels better tonight or tomorrow so he can go back to school on Wednesday. We just have to see what the next 24 hours holds for my sweet little guy. Since Zachary is not feeling well, I’m unable to get an real YouTube related work done.

Now that I’ve covered everything and more that needed to be covered in this post. Don’t forget to subscribe to my YouTube Channel.

Check back soon for updates!

 


The Life We Live

Never in a million years did I ever think I would tell random strangers about our personal life. But here I am telling the whole world about the life we live. I can’t really pinpoint a reason as to why I love to blog, but I do. I hope that eventually my blog will inspire others or teach others something of value to them. Not everyone is going to get the same thing out of my experience in life. So welcome to the life we live and I hope you find some tidbit of value in here somewhere.

I have spent the last month or more playing catch up in life. The whole month of May seemed to bring us bad luck. Five negative things happened pretty much back-to-back. I think there was a sixth, but I can’t remember what it was at the moment so it must not have been that bad.

  1. Kittens broke my laptop
  2. Hot Water heater started leaking
  3. Kevin injured his back at work
  4. Kevin’s truck died while in his mom’s possession
  5. Zachary (our 5-year-old) broke his elbow while we were at First Aid/CPR Classes

Thankfully, the laptop had a protection plan with the GeekSquad. So it took 2 weeks to get my laptop back. It’s still not 100% perfect like it was before it was broken. But it works, for now.

I replaced the hot water heater with minimal help from Kevin. He couldn’t lift anything because the same day he picked up the hot water heater from Lowe’s is when he hurt his back at work. So I ended up having to wait until that Friday to replace the hot water heater. Our old one was leaking, so we turned off the electricity running to it, drained it the best we could and then I rocked it to where I could put it on some cardboard from the new hot water heater and slid that sucker out the back door. I’m so glad we purchased waterproof flooring because the hot water heater was still half full of water, it wasn’t draining properly because of sediment from our well water.

Kevin ended up on some pretty heavy duty meds for about a week. So he was home with me and the kids resting up. In that time frame, his mom called him to tell him that his truck died on her. Come to find out, his truck threw a rod for the 2nd time since he purchased this truck in 2010. He loves this little Ford Ranger, but man does this engine in it suck. It had less than 70k miles on it, when it threw a rod for the second time. If only he would have gotten an extended warranty on that dang truck. Oh well, you live and you learn.

Now, Zachary’s broken elbow is a giant fiasco in and of itself. All I know is that it happened at the playground while his big brother was swinging on the swing set. He ended up needing surgery. We’re 4 weeks post-surgery and finally have his pins out.

So all-in-all, we’re finally started to get back on track with the life we live. It’s been a crazy ride and I hope that the rest of 2017 goes a little more smoothly than the month of May did for our family.

We need to get back on track with our debt journey. A few things set us back a little, but we’ll get back on track soon.

 


Our Debt Free Journey

I’ve talked about this on this blog several times about getting out of debt. Well, our adoption paperwork has opened our eyes to the bigger picture. We knew we were in debt, lots of debt. But we never sat down to figure out what our net worth is. In the adoption process, you have to disclose your assets, your liabilities, and your net worth. Seeing a negative net worth really put things into perspective for us. So here we go again. Debt Free Journey take 51 (okay, that’s an exaggeration but you get my point).

I’m going to break it down into real numbers here, the exact amount of debt we are in and we’re going to take you on this journey with us… here!

As much as it pains me to say how much we owe at the same time, I know that there are others in the same boat as us. So here it goes. We owe $410,163.67 as of today, April 24, 2017. It’s insane. That’s 2 mortgages, 11 credit cards (store and regular credit cards), 2 personal loans, 1 car loan, and 4 student loans.

While I understand Dave Ramsey’s Debt Snowball Method, I don’t think the Debt Snowball Method is for Kevin and myself. We’re going to start with the snowball method for our smallest debt ($747.95 with an interest rate of 24.4%) and pay that off. Then we’re going to start using the Debt Avalanche Method with the rest of our debts.

So what are we starting with? $200 on top of our minimum payments. May 1, 2017, is when our plan goes into effect. Any spare dollar we have is going into paying off our debts as fast as we possibly can. Not because of our adoption, but because we want to set an example for our children. In 10 years or less, we can be 100% debt free all starting with an extra $200! That’s not including any of Kevin’s over time or per diem pay, not including raises or when I go back to work when Ryleigh goes to school.

Once a month, I want to start posting an update both here on the blog, as well as a video for our ‘Journey to Being Debt Free’ Playlist on my YouTube Channel. I haven’t decided when I will update, but it will be on a monthly basis. I might post them on the first of the month for the previous month. Either way, this will happen. It is going to help keep us accountable for our debt situation. Be sure to subscribe for our monthly updates!


Hitting Rock Bottom

For the last few months, I have avoided writing this blog post because I didn’t want to admit that I was in fact, hitting rock bottom. I have been drug along the rocks and have been left battered and bruised from the lifestyle that I have lived for the last 6 years and probably longer.

Hitting rock bottom has been a rough experience for me. I’ve been left feeling ashamed, broken, depressed and more. You see, for the last 6 years, I have struggled to keep my weight in check. I have half-ass attempted to lose weight over the years, which in all reality just ended up costing us money… Wasted Money! Ugh! Hundreds of dollars down the drain.

Over the 6 years that I have been with Kevin, I have tried It Works!, Slimfast products, Alli pills that almost killed me last year when Kevin started with the company he works for now, Nutrisystem foods, gym memberships, personal trainer, home gym equipment, multiple BeachBody Workout Programs, Shakeology. If there was a “quick fix” I was willing to try it. Why? Because I have become lazy. I want all the results as quick as possible without going under the knife. I’m scared to death of surgery.

So here I am, sitting at my dining room table wishing I had been smarter, worked harder, actually changed my eating habits, and wishing I could somehow convince myself to get my rear off this chair and move more. I wish I could just give up the sodas and coffee cold turkey.

I’ve set personal goals over and over again for MANY years. It’s sad because I just can’t find the motivation to actually do what I say I’m going to do. I have struggled for a long time with my weight. Now, is the time I actually change and put in the hard work. No one cane make the change but me. I’m tired of feeling as if I’m being slammed into the rocks below me. Hitting rock bottom sucks, BAD! I keep saying I want to use my YouTube channel for accountability, but I haven’t even been able to keep up with that. I mean, I have 5 kids, we’re starting the adoption process, I have a husband who travels. But I just can’t seem to fit everything into my schedule. Ding Ding that’s it. I need to figure out a way to create a schedule that works for me and my family. If that means I record videos in the evening/night after I go to the gym then that is something I will need to figure out.

Kevin understands my need to feel good about myself again. If I can just get out of this massive ditch that I have dug myself into for close to the last 5 years then maybe I wouldn’t have such a problem keeping up with the things that I want to do with my life. But only time will tell.

So here’s what I’m currently up to, I’m getting a gym membership this weekend and starting Monday, March 20th, I’ll be hitting up the gym as often as I possibly can. If that means 3 to 5 times a week, then so be it. My goal is to work my way back into working out ( I was going to the gym when Kevin was still active duty) so we’ll see what works best for the family and for me. Then as time progresses we’ll change things up as needed. That’s all I can do.

So I’m gonna wrap this up, but starting on March 21st, I’m going to make it a point to get back into uploading videos on my YouTube Channel. I may even start creating videos and embedding them here in blog posts so my readers don’t have to go far to watch my videos!

Well, I hope everyone enjoys their weekend, I’m going to do my best. I’ll be hitting up Kohl’s for some new workout gear (shoes, pants, shirts, etc) and then jumping right in on Monday!

Come back soon!

 

 


Finding a Way

The Delancey family is in the process of finding a way to fund an out-of-state adoption if we are approved to foster/adopt. I’m not going to beat around the bush. Kevin and I have finally started the process of adoption. We’re filling out the application, preparing the kids for the process and getting all our ducks in a row.

For those that may not know, adopting through the Foster Care Program in your state has little or no cost associated with it. In fact, if you adopt in your state of residence your court costs and attorney’s fees are reimbursed by the state. People automatically assume that adoption is expensive, well it is if you aren’t adopting through the foster care system.

So right now, I’m looking at all the options available to us for fundraising in the event that we are approved to foster or for adoption. We are finding a way to complete our family.

We have some things that we will need to do, like make our basement office into a legal bedroom by reframing the doorway to include a window, in the event that there is a fire within the home. So our handyman is coming out over the weekend to give us a quote on the cost associated with moving the doorway and drywalling the area where the door was originally located.

Since we are just in the very beginning stages of the adoption process, I am not saying that we are going to fundraise, but we’re looking into all options. There are so many creative fundraiser ideas. T-shirt fundraisers, Tag the bag fundraisers, bake/candy sales, online auctions, cookbook sales, spaghetti dinners, mini photo sessions for a donation, puzzle piece fundraiser and the list goes on and on and on.

Our goal is to earn the money ourselves, Kevin hopes to work as much overtime as possible between now and when we start our training for the foster to adopt program.

I’ll be updating things as we get further into the process, but as of right now the Delancey’s are in the process of making our house a home full of happy, healthy children and a place they can always come home to when things don’t go as planned!

Thanks for stopping by, make sure you check back for future updates and for all the changes that we hope will be happening soon.

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