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Remaining Stagnant

For the last 2 years, I have been in this funk or a rut. I feel like I am remaining stagnant. The longer I am here, the more I feel like I am unable to get out of this funk. I feel alone here. I feel tired. I just don’t feel myself. By remaining stagnant, I am not helping my children. I’m tired of submitting to this awful feeling.

So what does remaining stagnant have to do with anything? Well, I’m currently conditioning my mind to start over with our move, our new house, and all the space we’ll have available to us.

I’m really looking forward to being in Loudoun County. The schools in our area have great ratings. So I’m looking forward to them getting settled in and growing roots for the first real time in their lives. We know our house isn’t our dream home, so this is just a starter home. We plan on being there for about 10 to 12 years, while paying off the house. Once we’ve paid it off, we can use it for rental income and we can then move forward to buying our dream home (even if that means that we have to have one built for us).

I’m already trying really hard to eat better, but that really isn’t going to do much for me if I’m not active. Being here has ruined any kind of motivation I’ve had to lose weight, to better myself as an individual, etc. So I’m ready to get moving and get this show on the road. For the sake of my children I need to get back to the old me. I cannot keep on this path of remaining stagnant, my kids deserve the best.

By starting fresh in a new place, I’ve got to explore. I’ll be setting up a small home gym in the garage. Treadmill, punching bag, weight bench, free-weights, etc. All of which I have either in storage or my brother has offered to me since he is not using them anymore. So I have no reason not to workout once we move and I set everything up. I just will have to get up at 4am with Kevin. I’ll be working out and he’ll be getting ready for work.  I’ll be able to take my laptop out to the garage for some music and/or to use for BeachBody Workouts Videos.

I’ll also be spending more time doing things other than sitting on my butt. I have to be more active if I wish to lose weight and keep it off. I have to eat healthier and actually stop skipping meals. So I’ve already got containers for meal prepping, I have two digital kitchen scales to weigh my proteins for breakfast, lunch and/or dinner. I have a Ninja Blender to make shakes. I’m doing everything I can to set myself up for success from the get go. We just have to get into our new home. If I start out on the right foot, then I think I’ll be able to keep myself on track.

We’re going to cut back on eating out (me not wanting to cook, so I order pizza) and also cut way back on my soda consumption. I’m also going to start buying a massive amount of fresh veggies and shrimp, so I can steam them daily for my lunches and dinners. Basically, I’m doing everything I can to keep myself motivated and preparing for the changes ahead.

There will be no option for me to allow myself the opportunity to continue to remain stagnant. I am moving away from this place and cannot wait to reunite with our family. We’re moving on to bigger and better things. I’m moving on to a better and healthier me! I just have to survive the next few weeks of “torture” and then we should be smooth sailing.

I know that there will be a time where I post a “before & after” photo. But I will probably also post during photos! But only time will tell. At this time, I cannot make any promises, as I don’t want to let anyone down.

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Waiting Game

The next month or so is going to be a waiting game. Why? Well keep reading to see what the waiting game is all about.

For those that haven’t stopped by our blog before, let me give you a little background on our family.

We’re a family of 7 with a dog and 2 cats!

My husband, Kevin was a United States Marine for 10 years, he was honorably discharged in September 2014. He spent a year working for a small construction company, the pay sucked and the job itself wasn’t much better. But the owners of the company were great people. When I found Kevin’s new job and he accepted the offer, he gave his two weeks. They said if things with his new job didn’t workout, he was more than welcome to come back. They still text him every so often to say they miss him. He’s now been at his new job for almost 4 months. He loves his new job, while it’s not the same type of generator work that he was doing in the military. Job is great, co-workers are great, and the pay is phenomenal. He spends a lot of time traveling, but it is part of the job.

We have 5 kids (three are from my 1st marriage; that ended badly). They’re all under 12. Our house is always crazy. Someone is always doing something too loud, too messy, or too slowly. We’re looking forward to being back on the East Coast, as soon as possible. We’re trying so hard to get our lives together after the Marine Corps to give our kids the best. We have occasionally struggled to make ends meet because we support not only our children, but a house in Maryland that my in-laws live in. My in-laws are finally getting back on their feet, so we’re almost to where we need to be in order to purchase our dream home. No need to damage my husband’s credit by letting his first house get foreclosed on.

This tax season, we were planning on paying off debts (as many as we possibly could). Well we had to change some things around and decided to get all our credit card debt under control. We are just under 25% utilization between all of our cards (we have a lot, lol).

So to get back to the topic of this post… we’re playing the waiting game with our credit scores. Now, before you jump to conclusions we both have good credit scores, we’re just waiting for them to get better. The better the score, the better the rates we can get for a mortgage.

So we’ve got to wait until our credit reports update with all the proper account information. Until then, we’re still going to make more than our minimum payments until our cards are paid off and we’re going to put all of Kevin’s overtime pay into our two savings accounts (only one has online and access via debit card, the other requires Kevin to go to the bank to deposit while he’s in Virginia).

I’m not sure what is worse… the “two week wait” when finding out if you are pregnant or not… or waiting for our credit reports to update.

This has been a long time coming… We’ve just been waiting it out for the last year. We attempted to purchase a house in 2014, but with all the other issues (not getting rent money from his family) we had to put our dreams on hold. But this is a much better year financially and this is the right time for our family to do the things we want to do.

Well enough random ramblings. I’ve got to go do laundry and dishes. The life of a stay-at-home mom/housewife are never done! But I wouldn’t change this for the world. The freedom it allows us, as a family is awesome.

Well I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend. The kids and I have some science fair projects to do.